9 minutes ago
For a long time, if you asked me what success looked like, I’d say that it’s something we define on our own terms. I don’t disagree with that entirely, but I see that it’s really hard to get to the root of “our own terms”, because we’re so damn conditioned.
So for me, for the longest time my version of success was earning a lot of money, doing work I love, jetsetting to Necker Island (that was fun though!), long-term-deeply-passionate romantic partnership, “financial freedom”, and being able to buy fancy food whenever I wanted.
The thing is, that definition of success isn’t available to most people on the planet. The more I sunk into that honest and sobering reality, the more I saw that my personal definition of success didn’t stray far from our cultural definition of success. 🍎|🌳
It’s a disorienting thing to watch my definition of success shift over time, before my eyes It feels like a process of “sobering up” into something deeper...
- I want our children to be healthy
- I want deep friendship
- I want to be truly helpful
- I want to find joy in simplicity
- I want to heal my traumas so my kid has a lighter load
- I want to embrace aging
- I want us all to have enough
- I want to get to know plants more intimately
- I want INTIMACY
- I want to memorize my favorite poems
- I want to be wise as an elder
- I want to know my parents more
- I want to have many memories with my child in the garden
- I want to be a really, really solid friend
- I want to dance naked often
- I want to be kinder all the time
- I want to help build things that support people in very real ways
- I want to be a good listener
- I want to learn Argentine tango & flamenco again
- I want to travel to my ancestral homelands
- I want to be courageous while I’m alive
- I want to be courageous while I die
Friends, what does success mean to you?
photo by my sweet friend, @beccapiastrelli