I was chatting with a friend yesterday. She thinks I get affected by the evil eye which is why I often get unwell. And my typical response was, "No man. Only pretty people get the evil eye because people get jealous. Why would anyone be jealous of me?" After many face palms she gave me a long lecture on how I need to learn to stop putting myself down and learn to take compliments. My reaction to compliments are something like this.
1. "You look lovely in these clothes." "What? No. I look so fat." 2. "Red lipstick suits you a lot" "I don't think so. I just put it on because I like it but it looks so much better on fair people." 3. "You're so cute." "Are you crazy?" These are just a few examples. Even yesterday my friend sent me some of my selfies, which I had sent ages ago, trying to prove to me that I'm beautiful. And my response to the photos was "OMG! These are the worst photos ever! I look like shit!" Again, a gazillion face palms followed by "LORD! FROM WHICH EYES DO YOU SEE THE WORLD!"
This got me thinking. I've never quite said "Thank you" on receiving a compliment. It's usually an "aisi koi baat nai" or "you're too kind". I always think people are being generous through compliments and hardly accept them as facts. The second I hear a compliment, my insecurities kick in and say "that's not true!" Why though? Why is it so hard to accept a compliment? Why is it so hard to acknowledge that there is something good about me too? Why do negative thoughts always take over any positive ones?
As we enter the cooler months I tend to sadly say good bye to my holiday nail colours of vibrant melons, orange based reds and hot pink polishes and move towards the blue based reds, dark plum reds and then the blacks like Lincoln Park . I’m loving this deep red wine colour from SMITH & CULT called “Peaceful Paranoia”. As we start to lose our summer suntans on our hands, these colours are a stand out and seem to match beautifully on a paler winter skin .
TIP : Keep a rich nourishing hand cream on your bedside table and make sure you moisturise your hands before bed every night so it becomes a nightly ritual as hands often become awfully dry during winter.