5 hours ago
I’ve been looking for an answer to this question for a while. Are there any moms out there who never feel guilty? Who genuinely believe that their kids have it all? That they are set and comfortable financially, they not only have the stuff they need, but they have ENOUGH of mommy’s love, time, attention and energy? Mom who at all times believes that she plays with her kids enough, spends enough time with them, helps them with all the developmental activities and so on and so forth? One who knows for sure that the relationship in the family is warm, safe and comfortable, who never fights with her husband in front of her children and is always confident they feel absolutely safe? A mom who ALWAYS, at all times knows that she is “a good enough mother”?
Mom who also has time to live her life, who doesn’t sacrifice herself for the sake of being “good enough” at all times?
This is what being “zenfull” is about for me - not meditating all day long and doing yoga with your kids, but finding this balance. I think we are all alive, and it’s absolutely normal to feel this way, it’s normal to forget that you are the best mom for them just the way you are...as long as you remember it soon enough. I think by being genuine even in our down moments we show our tiny humans that the world isn’t monotone and it can be hard, and we deal with all sorts of emotions. And that it’s ok: we are ok, the world is ok, and hopefully we make sure to remind them that they are ok and it’s not about them. If you are able to cope in a productive way, then even better - they also learn to cope with those emotions watching us do so. Dealing with all sorts of emotions helps them develop their EQ, empathy, and connect with other people better in the future.
What do you think? Anyone feeling guilty here and there? Anyone who never does? at West New York, New Jersey