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“Real freedom is about setting others free. Reach out through our shame to share our stories and to connect with those who need to hear, you are not alone.” Brene Brown
I’ve had people question what I do online—my social media influence and presence. Asking why I share such intimate stuff, details of my life or my inner psyche that can sometimes make me sound like a broken record—sharing sadness, heartbreak, shame and feeling not enough. I get it. It scares some people.
But the reason it’s SO friggen scary is BECAUSE we don’t share enough of it. Shame breeds and multiplies when it’s in the dark. When you bring it out into the light, it can no longer hold the same power. Have you ever felt serious shame about something? And then when you finally “fessed up” or shared what that experience was for you, you felt relieved, lighter and even happy? That’s shame sharing. And understand that when you share that shame, you are giving other people the permission to share theirs. That’s what I am doing here. I am sharing my stories or pain, fear, guilt and shame, to make other people feel less alone in theirs.
We are not meant to keep secrets and live in fear. We are not meant to live afraid to tell our stories. We are meant to hold hands, be honest and live authentically. And we cannot do that if we hide.
So I encourage you today, think of one thing you keep close out of fear—it could be an experience, it could be a part of your body or your personality, or something you did in your past, and share it with one person today. Feel the weight of that shame lift off your shoulders and most importantly your heart. And if you’re feeling really brave, share it with me.
Today I leave you with this. The more of your shame you share, the lighter and happier you will feel.
This is me. Light and happy and free. And full of love.