26 days ago
for many years i have been struggling with being in what i feel is an “in between space”. of being accepted into straight society as a good gay under a half muted don’t ask don’t tell rule and every now and then coming into contact with unapologetic gay pride. i’ve been struggling with this idea of being a good gay versus being a bad gay and i recently read a post articulating how i feel. it went something like this, a good gay is a gay who is by all definitions straight, they don’t talk about being gay, they like the same things as straight people and they never push their gayness in your face. bad gays are the campy fags and the aggressive bulldaggers, the gays who are covered in rainbows and march in skimpy clothes or leathers at the gay parade.
these bad gay are the one i’m interested in, at first i was afraid to relate gay culture so much because i didn’t want to be a bad gay who’s whole personality was about being gay but as time has passed every opportunity i’ve been around other unapologetic proud gay people it’s been like a breath of fresh air, i can feel the corset of whale bones loosening around my chest and i feel a little more like myself. these bad gays are the gays who are fighting to be visible in a society that wants them to conform and those are the gays i want to be seen with. i want to be a proud nonconforming bad gay. so when it comes to this page, it’s about celebrating us butch dykes, studs, bois and all variants of female masculinity. so please feel welcome #femalemasculinity #butch #dyke #lesbian #pride #lesbiansofinsta #dykestowatchoutfor #BUTCHBrisbane