3 months ago
The mental load is all the mental work, the organising, list-making and planning, that you do to manage your life, and that of those dependent on you. Most of us carry some form of mental load, about our work, household responsibilities, financial obligations and personal life; but what makes up that burden and how it's distributed within households is not always equal.
It is often the case that women resent the unspoken expectation that they will carry the mental load of parenting, rather than it being shared equally by both parents. To be a "good mother", it seems that they must NOTICE & TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for everything related to their children. This is exhausting, particularly for those that are in full time employment.
Census data clearly shows Australian women spend, on average, 5 to 14 hours per week in unpaid domestic work, whereas men spend less than 5 hours a week. Women also spend an additional hour a day looking after children.
Helping to maintain a functional family has intrinsic benefits, the joy of knowing everyone had a wonderful day and satisfaction that comes from helping others. But the work of household manager is often relentless, exhausting and can be stressful. It can affect your health, in particular your sleep, and women are known to have more disrupted sleep than men.
In a mature equal relationship the mental, parenting and domestic load belongs to BOTH partners. When this sharing takes place without prompting, women are significantly more satisfied and connected to their partners.
Worth thinking about!
Extra reading: http://time.com/money/4561314/women-work-home-gender-gap/
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