3 months ago
This is our eighth Christmas without my beautiful mom. I miss her all the time, and this time of year it is especially hard. I want nothing more than to see her in the kitchen making ravioli on Christmas Eve, and sip coffee peacefully on the couch as she watches her five rambunctious children and granddaughter open presents.
I know there are many people out there dealing with the loss of a loved one. Whether this is the first year without them or the 20th, we can’t help but long for their presence. And I just want to offer some words of encouragement to anyone who may need them right now.
I understand the anger, guilt, or just plain sadness that overwhelms us upon losing someone we love. It’s not wrong to have those feelings. But during this holiday season full of jolliness, you can have that too - even in this struggle.
God meets us right where we’re at in our pain. At Christmas we ultimately celebrate the birth of Jesus, the light brought into the darkness of this hurting world - and He will do the same for you in your grief. “God created everything through him, and nothing was created except through him. The Word gave life to everything that was created, and his life brought light to everyone. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness can never extinguish it.” (John 1:3-5)
There is light in this. God shows love amidst our trials to glorify Him and bless His children who believe in Him. I’ve seen it and felt it over and over, even on the hardest days since mom left us. We may not understand it right now or in this lifetime, but that’s where faith and His fullness come in. As the song goes: “A thrill of hope, the weary world rejoices.”
His coming is our hope in all loss and disappointment.
Mom is in heaven above with her dad, her sister, and other family, and with the God of all who makes things right, redeems, and brings peace. In this I can rest with beautiful memories, be joyous knowing that I will see her again, and be thankful that I have a God who gave us His son so that we could know light in the bleakest of times.
And I will make it clear, I am always open fo anyone who might be going through this and needs someone to talk to.